It is important to use SOAP when working with a person with FASD. Especially as a means to change unwanted behavior. SOAP is an acronym for Stop-Observe-Assess-Plan and is very useful as a direction to take when things get difficult.
Another acronym to remember while going through the steps of SOAP is HALT. HALT stands for Hungry-Angry-Lonely-Tired and can just as applicable in these situations. Because it could be that a person is feeling one of these and it is contributing to behavioral issues.
It is also important to reflect on our own possible expectations. We have to remember how the disorder is and not expect more from someone than they can give. In addition, when using SOAP it is critical to look at the structure and routine and check that it hasn't broken down in some areas as this can easily be frustrating for the individual.